A Letter to my Teen Self

Dear fearful 15 year old self,

I wish you wouldn't worry so much. I know you can't see it now, but everything will be okay. I know, no one understands you. You feel alone and misunderstood. Look around, those guys who laugh now, the ones you think are bigger and stronger than you, in 10 years will be the ones looking up to you for your strength and confidence. Class presentations are your nightmare. But keep on listening to your fight song "Hero" by Mariah Carey, "When you feel like hope is gone, look inside you and be strong. And you'll finally see the truth, that a hero lies in you." Because in ten years, believe it or not, you'll speak in front of 800 people. In ten years, you'll be teaching a group of teenagers how to be brave. In ten years, you'll finally have the courage to just be yourself. 

Fly birdie fly, now you are fearless.

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