Embrace the Uncomfortable
A couple nights ago over dinner, I asked my friend, Tim
Flynn, a speech-language pathologist and a person who stutters, if he had any
advice for me just starting graduate school.
Tim said, “Don’t become complacent within your comfort
zone.”
This came the night before seeing my first individual client
and I was scared half to death. Truth was, I felt uncomfortable. I was
complacent with stuttering. This was beyond my comfort zone. Something I’ve
never done; something I wasn’t even sure I was capable of.
We have imaginary walls that define our comfort zone. It
feels good to live between these barriers. Within these walls we excel at our
strengths and this space becomes safe and rewarding. But we often dwell so long
in this space that we forget what lies beyond.
Truth is – you can’t have courage if you don’t let yourself
feel uncomfortable.
“We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we
can’t have both. Not at the same time.”
-Brene Brown
The situations we learn the most from are often the ones where we feel the most uncomfortable. We feel awkward, uneasy, and unqualified. These
are the situations that are beginning to give off that “DING” in my head. The
green light signaling that courage is necessary. Time to press on the gas and go
even if you have no idea where you will end up.
This semester, I am a student clinician in the avoidance
reduction therapy stuttering group. Leaving your comfort zone is the heart of
this therapy. It’s about risk taking, shame busting, and reducing your fear.
Change occurs by embracing the uncomfortable and entering situations outside of
your walls.
I have a quote on my wall from the Successful Stuttering
Management Program. It reads:
“If you want something you never had, you must do something
you never have.”
You can’t grow if you always play it safe. When you stay
within your self-constructed walls, you run the risk of never reaching your
true potential.
It’s hard to tear down those walls. We don’t want to fail.
But what if we’re supposed to fail? What if failing and incompetence were the
prerequisites to learning and succeeding? If we did everything perfectly,
education would not exist. Knowledge would be stagnant. There would be no
growth.
Our walls keep us from pain, hurt, struggle, and all those
nasty emotions that come with taking a risk. But they block out growth,
learning, inspiration, connection, and change.
Leaving your comfort zone is a life-long journey. Growing
up, my dad always told me to keep challenging myself. He is the perfect
exemplar of that. He is 60 years old and continues to seize new opportunities,
take risks, leave his comfort zone, and succeed. He is my inspiration to never
settle and keep pushing my walls.
After my session with my first client, I ran into the
student room and yelled, “I DID IT!”
I beat down the walls of my comfort zone and succeeded. I loved
every minute of the session. I learned so much in those 50 minutes about myself
and what I am capable of. It was scary entering into a new and uncertain
environment, but the feeling of relief, accomplishment, self-satisfaction, and
pride that I experienced afterward can only occur outside of the walls of your
comfort zone.
I’ll repeat it again, “Don’t become complacent within your
comfort zone.”
Never settle. Recognize when it’s time to knock down those
walls. Always challenge yourself to new and different opportunities. Never stop
growing.
Invite the uncomfortable, muster your courage, and take a
risk.
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