In an Instant
August, 2000
My uncle is leaving work to go home to his wife and newborn
daughter. A truck driver is making his last delivery. The truck driver decides
to run a red light.
In an instant, my uncle is killed.
He never got to watch his daughter grow up.
He never got to grow old with the love of his life.
We never had a chance to say goodbye.
My dad stood fatherless and brotherless.
There became a forever void in our heart.
January, 2010
I get a text from my mother while in Belize. “ Your grandma
has been diagnosed with Parkinsons."
March, 2014
I get a text from my mother while at work. “We are moving
grandma here. She’s not doing well.”
April, 2014
We think grandma has Lewy Body Dementia.
December, 2015
I’m sitting upstairs and I hear my dad talking about my grandmother’s
decline to my mom: “She is all I have left of my family. This is it.”
I believe that love and loss are intricately tied. We want
to hold on to the ones we love – forever. But since we can't do that, we settle
for holding on to them until the last possible second. But sometimes, our ties
are cut short and we are forced to let go prematurely, without warning.
We want the “good old days” back, the times when everyone
was well.
But did we really know what we had then?
Through it all, the pain, suffering, hardship, and loss, all
we really can do is hold on to what we have. Cherish the memories. Bottle the
laughter. Spread the love.
One day we will look back and want THIS MOMENT, right now.
Here.
Love is joy and loss is sadness. Loss hijacks our emotions
and fills us with pain. But this bumpy road of loss actually gives us the opportunity
to love more than we could have ever imagined. It helps us realize that love is
precious. Life is temporary.
I’m taken aback to my childhood winter breaks spent in
Florida every year. The sound of football, the smell of Hungarian food, and the
laughter that abounded. Grandpa Jack and Uncle Eric sitting on the couch
yelling at the TV. Grandma in the kitchen cooking up a storm.
The condo is gone, the TV is off, and everything is silent.
I don’t know how it all disappeared so fast. But I do know that in an instant,
everything changed.
I dig up my grandma's favorite snow globe. I wipe off the dust. For an instant, the flowers came back to life, the snow began to fall again, and the song, "You are the wind beneath my wings" played once more.
I dig up my grandma's favorite snow globe. I wipe off the dust. For an instant, the flowers came back to life, the snow began to fall again, and the song, "You are the wind beneath my wings" played once more.
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